What are the 10 signs of a cheating spouse?

We are seeing the infidelity bug all over right now. John Edwards, Tiger Woods, Arnold the Governor, just to name a few off the top of my head.

Isn’t anything scared anymore?

Uh, no. And, it never was.

Perhaps all the scandal has left you questioning the security of your own bond with a trusted partner. It’s good every now and then to take a personal inventory and ask a few questions.

Whenever you start to think “it could never happen to me” you become a candidate to have it happen to you. Life has a way of coming up and biting you in the ass.

Every time.

So, sit down for a few minutes.

Relax.

Let’s go over some thing you can look for when you suspect (or even if you don’t suspect) you have a partner that is running around behind your back.

10 Signs of A Cheating Spouse – What to Look For

10. Your spouse or trusted partner becomes distant and closed off. Has the conversation that you once shared now ceased to exist? Is your partner non-communicative and reluctant to discuss intimate details that were once part of your everyday life?

9. Guarded cell phone usage. At one time was it common to see your partner’s cell phone lying around the house at different spots? And, now has all that changed? Is that phone always on their person, never out of reach and is no one allowed access to it other than them?

The cell phone the hub to privacy and communication in our current culture. If your partner or spouse is guarding that privacy, you have to ask why now? What’s going on that they don’t want anyone else (especially you) to see?

8. Guarded time on the Internet. Again, this is an area of extreme individual privacy. Are they on the computer more now with their free time? Is that time guarded? Have they started new email accounts or set up password access where you cannot enter?

If everything was free and open and there has been a change, you have to again ask “why now?”

7. Time away from the home and family. If your partner is involved with someone else that has to take place in time somewhere. They have to rob Peter to pay Paul, so to speak.

The time with the new involvement comes at the expense of time with you and the family. Is your partner absent in the familiar places you have commonly shared for a long time? Are the “working late” frequently?

Have the joined “the gym?” Do they have a “friend” that is having a personal problem that seem to be always dealing with and taking them away from you and the family?

6. A change in your intimate sex life. It is easy to note a drop off in the time you share in the bedroom and be alarmed there is something wrong in your relationship. But, conversely, an increase in sexual appetite can also signal a warning of betrayal.

Is your partner aroused more now? Are the invigorated when it comes to the bedroom bounce?

Why now? Could it be they are now inspired by something (someone) outside the boundary of your relationship? Could they be using you to practice techniques they are learning from someone else?

I know it’s harsh, but a change in the quality of your sex life – either way – is a cause for concern.

5. Separate laundry. This one is easy to overlook. But, is your partner now doing their own laundry whereas before they let you do it?

Why would someone in a committed relationship have a sudden interest in doing their own laundry. What does that hide? It doesn’t take any kind of rocket scientist to figure that one out. If your partner is making sure you never come to close to their clothes that need laundering, you have to wonder why.

4. Starts fights or accuses you of being involved with someone else. This is an old rouse. Think of it has a preemptive strike. Your partner could also now be aware how easy it is to fall in with someone else.

Starting fights is also a great to get out the house to “cool off” for a bit.  Right.  Cool off with whom? Once or twice over a space of time, no problem. Repeated occurrences? Houston, we gotta a problem.

3. Your partner suddenly has new interests. Is the country music fan now listening to rock or classical music?

Is your action movie lover now interested in romantic comedy or foreign films?

Is your little Rush Limbaugh now shaded towards Rachel Maddow and wearing Keith Olbermann t-shirts?

Is the person who hated reality TV now glued to “The Amazing Race?” You get the idea.

2. An increased awareness and care of their appearance. Are they now leaving the house with their makeup on each and every time?

Has your husband now started wearing slacks and a dress shirt with a regular shave, even on the weekends, where at one time all you saw was a ball cap and sweats.

Is your wife going to the beauty parlor more often, and dressed to kill whenever she walks out the front door?

Have they started running or walking or working out, suddenly and frantically shedding those excess pounds that you thought you’d never see go? From where comes the inspiration?

1. Your gut tells you something just isn’t right. Don’t underestimate the power of your own perception. You know your partner probably better than anyone else on the planet. You know where they are up to something, when something just isn’t right.

Trust your instincts and follow through on what it tells you.

10 Signs of A Cheating Spouse – A Final Word

That’s 10 signs of a cheating spouse, but there are countless others. Every situation is different, each relationship with a unique boundary. Just know: Anything can happen to anyone at any time. You are not immune. This is not something that just happens to someone else.

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