I saw the movie “Blue Valentine” a few nights back. The film stars Ryan Gosling and Olivia Williams and chronicles the coming together and the falling apart of a modern couple.
I love this movie because of the realism it portrayed. You see the couple battling through their projections of each other, projections that erode through the course of years and ultimately leaving them isolated within the confines of their relationship with no idea how to connect with each other.
Neither one has any idea of an inner life, thus how can they ever hope to connect with someone else? Even though that is the intense longing each possesses.
This movie offers no solutions – thank god. But, it is a sad and beautiful portrait of the decay of a love relationship over the course of time.
No good guy. No bad guy. Just two people struggling to understand what moves inside of them, with no real way to articulate it.
Why do two people come together against all the odds? What eventually comes to destroy that relationship? I guess that’s why I like the movie so much. It doesn’t preach, just opens the lens on this couple, and lets you in to take a peek. It is sometimes a painful look; sometimes poignant and touching; sometimes terribly sad. But, it is always interesting.
Go see “Blue Valentine.” It is a terrific film.
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Article by Stan Sentavi
I have been through a betrayal that I thought would break me. It didn't. It made me stronger and more resolute. I am a wiser and a better person in the end. I now know the most important relationship you ever have is with yourself. Be responsible and demand the life you want. No excuses. No playing the role of "victim."
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