You know the one thing in a marriage that’s always destroyed after an affair?

Intimacy. That close, deep connection between two people is severed the moment one learns the other has committed an act of betrayal.

You see, the intimacy only comes when there are no barriers between you, and those barriers are lowered only when there is no fear of getting hurt. You have to trust your spouse completely to leave yourself that vulnerable.

After an affair, trust is shattered and the walls go up. You’re on one side; your spouse is on the other. There’s no intimacy.

That’s probably where you’re at right now, isn’t it? It probably seems like a hopeless place to be, but it isn’t. Not if you’re patient and willing to put your spouse’s emotional needs first.
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