Infidelity In Marriage

The effects of infidelity in marriage are of course devastating. You break the trust in a long-standing relationship, and it will take a long to repair the damage. Sometimes, there is no going back.

One of the most difficult parts of dealing with a betrayal is the images that run non-stop through the offended partner’s head.

You see your partner in intimate situations with another, and in that place belongs to you.

You’ve earned it through the years of caring and sharing. And, now you have deal with an interloper arriving on the scene and occupying your spot. This is not easy and can cause a rage of emotions.

Trust is the cornerstone of any adult relationship. You rely on someone to have your back. You count on it. That’s what a marriage is. And, when that boundary is violated it can take a long time to re-build. Sometimes it can never be rebuilt.

Effects of Infidelity in Marriage & Me

Speaking of my own situation here, after my wife had an affair I looked to her to say the things I needed to hear, for sure. But more importantly, I needed to see the action to back it up.

Instead all I received was blame, and it lead to the eventual death of our relationship. It doesn’t have to be that way for you. Not at all.

Trust isn’t something you give. It is, of course, something you earn. You earn it through your deeds much more so than the words you speak. Sure, saying the right words is a good start, but it is only the start. Back it up with intense action.

If you have betrayed your partner, make them believe in you again.

If you say you’re going to pick up the kids at noon, pick them up at noon.

If you say you’re going to have dinner fixed by the time they get home, then have it fixed.

If you say you’re going be home by five, then by gawd, be home by five.

Through a series of these small steps you begin to rebuild the trust you have lost. Your partner begins to believe in what you say again.

Effects of Infidelity in Marriage; It Doesn’t Have to Be Forever

The effects of infidelity in marriage don’t have to last a life-time. Not if both partners are intent on keeping the relationship in tact and are willing to travel a tough road to save it.

I firmly believe the road back begins with the acknowledgment from the offending partner: “Yes, I did this. I know it was wrong. I know why it happened, and I will ensure it will never happen again. You can trust me.”

If the blame game is played, if the offending partner does not acknowledge their wrong-doing, then the couple has no chance at surviving infidelity. “Yeah, I know this was wrong, but you made me do it.” First of all, this is NOT an adult approach. And, second, it won’t allow you to travel very far if it is your sincere hope to save your union.

The effects of infidelity in marriage don’t have to define the relationship forever.

In fact, if both parties want to come out from beneath the cloak of denial, there is chance for the complete re-birth of the relationship. Which path will you take? Sun or shadows?

Infidelity In Marriage

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