Signs Of Lying

Are you looking for signs of lying in your partner?

Is there anyway to know conclusively that someone you have trusted may be cheating on you?

The suspicion can cause a doubt to fester and strangle a relationship if it continues for too long. So, what do you look for?

What are the signs of lying, what are the tip-offs? If you suspect you’re seeing signs of lying in your partner,  signs of a cheating spouse, look for these clues:

Signs of Lying in Your Partner

1) Eye contact. You hear it all the time, but when a person is lying about something they do not want to be seen, thus they don’t look to see. It is a way to hide. I would warn you if your partner is aware of this, they may lock into a zombie gaze and never let go. Be on the lookout for either circumstance.

2) Covering their mouth while speaking. This is again another way to hide, almost as if they don’t want the lies to escape the mouth for fear of being recognized. And, watch for a covering of the eyes while conversing as well. All of this is an attempt at not revealing something.

3) Prefaced speech. There are little code phrases that are use when a person lies. You ever any of these: “I swear I’m telling you the truth.” “You just have to believe me.” Or, “You want to know the whole truth?” Such emphasized speech could be a great tip off that it is bedtime, and you’re hearing the one about Goldilocks and Three Bears.

4) Body Language. Do they cross any of their limbs in a defensive position? If so, they could be protecting themselves from you and revealing the truth. The limbs protect the heart. “I’m not allowing you in here.” Conversely, if they’re sitting open and in front of you, they don’t feel the need to conceal. “C’mon in.”

Signs of Lying: Don’t Be Fooled

5) The hesitation. When you ask them an important question, do they ask you to repeat it? And, you know full well they heard it? Do they say something like, “Huh?” or “Ah, what?” This is a stall tactic to give the mind time to find something to say. Their mind is working a little over time to come up with something plausible.  When looking for signs of lying, this a definite tip-off.

6) Are they defensive? Do they become irritable when questioned about something bothering you? Snap at you? This tactic is used to close off inquiry and discussion. The message they want to convey: you’re pissing me off. If your relationship is on solid ground, you should be able to ask you partner anything, and it would be acceptable.

Now, of course, you do not want to become an accusation machine, making life miserable. But, a question seeking some validation of the stability of the relationship from time time to never out of line.

If your partner is defensive, you could have a cheating lover on your hands.

7) Blinking and Swallowing. Here again the liar is wanting to hide from the situation – thus an increase in blinking – and also their glands are working overtime, they have to swallow more than usual. Both of these are easily detectable if you pay some attention.

This is my no means all of the signs of lying, and there are subtleties to all of the above that do not have the space in this post to detail. But if you suspect your partner is lying to you, be on the lookout for what I described above.

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Signs Of Lying

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